A woman who lost 150 pounds has opened up about how almost everyone in her life started treating her better after her figure changed – including her own family members.
Katiria Duque, 28, from Houston, Texas, lost the weight in 2019 because she wanted more energy and feared for her health. She went from 275-285 pounds to 130-135 pounds, and right away, she noticed a difference in the way that people interacted with her.
Suddenly, strangers on the street were friendlier to her, more people were interested in being her friend and men who would previously reject her wanted to buy her drinks.
But what affected her the most was the way it changed the relationship she had with her family. Katiria, who is a photographer, revealed in a now-viral TikTok video that after her weight loss, her grandma wanted to take a picture of her for the first time ever – and it was very emotional for her.
‘For the first time ever, my grandma took a picture of me. I remember that day because it made me cry,’ Katiria recalled in the clip, which has now garnered more than 2.5 million views.
Katiria Duque, 28, lost 150 pounds in 2019, and right away, she noticed a difference in the way that people interacted with her. She went from 275-285 pounds (left) to 130-135 pounds (right)
Speaking out! The Houston, Texas, native has gone viral on TikTok for sharing her experience, with the video gaining more than 2.5 million views
Before her weight loss, Katiria said it felt like she ‘didn’t matter’ but afterwards, she said ‘everything around her was perfect’
‘She was like, “Oh, me flaca, my skinny girl, I want a picture of you.” And she’s never taken a picture of me [before].’
Katiria explained that things were different with her other family members too. They now offered to cook for her, rather than telling her to stop eating.
‘I would come over to my family’s house and they’re like, “What do you want to eat? What can I make you, your favorite?”‘ she said.
‘And it’s so crazy because when I was way bigger, it was like, “Hey, stop eating,” or, “Make yourself something to eat.”‘
Before losing weight, Katiria said it felt like she ‘didn’t matter’ but afterwards, she started to receive better job opportunities and ‘everything around her was perfect.’
‘I felt like I didn’t matter. I was getting better job opportunities. And I don’t know, it’s like, everything around me was perfect. That messed me up because I no longer was doing it for myself,’ she said.
‘I was scared that if I gained the weight back that everyone would hate me again. After being treated different, you feel like, “Oh damn, I was hated.”
‘I kid you not, if something bad happened in my family or in my friend group or just out in life, I was always easy target to blame or I would get like the s**t end of everything.’
She continued, ‘I don’t know if it was in my head, but whenever I lost all that weight, I could do no wrong. It was very strange.
‘I developed an eating disorder. I was scared to gain that weight back. I was trying to eat as little as possible and workout as hard as possible.’
Suddenly, strangers on the street were friendlier to her, more people were interested in being her friend and men who would previously reject her wanted to buy her drinks
But what affected her the most was the way it changed the relationship she had with her family
Katiria explained that as soon as she started eating regularly again, she gained all the weight back.
‘I gained every single pound back. And now, I’ve spent the [last] two years trying to get that high back from when I started,’ she said.
‘I’ve been hiding for the last two years, haven’t been to a single event because I don’t want people to see that I gained all my weight back.’
In another video, Katiria admitted that she ‘doesn’t blame’ her family members for the way that they treated her.
‘I do not blame them for the way that they thought. We have all been raised by society, conditioned to appreciate and like smaller bodies. That’s just the way that it’s always been,’ she said.
‘I was raised in the 90s, it was low-rise jeans, America’s Next Top Model – that’s just how I was raised. I can’t imagine the time period my grandmother was raised or my mother was raised.
‘I imagine it was much worse so I do not blame their ignorance.
‘To be quite honest, unless people have gone through what we have gone through, they’re never going to get it. As long as their willing to learn and hear you out, that’s all you could really ask for.’
She also said that after the incident with her grandma, it sparked an important conversation between them.
They now offered to cook for her, rather than telling her to stop eating. And her grandmother took a photo of her for the first time
Room to grow: She said she doesn’t blame her family members for the way they treated her because they were ‘conditioned to appreciate and like smaller bodies’
‘She was like, “You know I love you, no matter what. Every shape. Your whole life I’ve loved you.”‘
‘I love that that happened because it gave us room for conversation. I got to talk to her about body positivity and how the world is changing.’
While speaking to Bored Panda, Katiria said she was overwhelmed by all the positive feedback she has gotten on her video.
‘My reaction to my video going viral was overwhelming and not because of the views but people’s reactions! I had no idea so many could relate to my exact story,’ she said.
‘Brought me to tears because I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. At the same time it brought me peace, knowing we could all overcome fatphobia if we stick together and continue to live our lives.
‘It seems like we all stopped living so that we could accommodate the people that hate looking at us in bigger bodies.
‘So many people in the comments have been hiding for years. Enough is enough!’