A writer has revealed how she discovered her close friend Monica Lewinsky was having an affair with her husband, the year before the White House intern’s tryst with President Clinton became a national scandal.
Kate Nason has told of her now-ex-husband Andy Bleiler’s affair with their family friend in her new memoir ‘Everything Is Perfect’.
And she told how the couple were in therapy trying to rescue their marriage when Lewinsky’s affair with President Bill Clinton threw them into the national media spotlight.
Nason says Bleiler was friends with Lewinsky after they met while he was a high-school drama teacher.
Unbeknownst to Nason their affair began in 1993 when Lewinsky was 19-years-old and moved to Portland, Oregon.
Lewinsky was a close friend who babysat the couple’s children and called daily from DC, the New York Post reports.
Kate Nason (pictured) recounted her husband’s affair with family friend Monica Lewinsky in her new memoir ‘Everything Is Perfect’
A photograph showing former White House intern Monica Lewinsky meeting President Bill Clinton at a White House
Bleiler (right) and Nason (left) held a press conference in 1998 where the drama teacher admitted that he had had an affair with Monica Lewinsky
Nason writes that she was most taken with Lewinsky’s bawdy humor, saying: ‘She always made me laugh, and always made me blush.’
But in 1997, Nason said she began having suspicions that her husband was having an affair with a co-worker.
‘I confronted him about it and he was gaslighting me,’ she told the New York Post.
But the co-worker later showed up to their home and confirmed her suspicions, and dropped an additional bombshell – Bleiler was also in a relationship with then-23-year-old Lewinsky.
‘I found out about both of them that day,’ Nason told the Post.
Lewinsky (pictured this year) was 19 when her affair with Bleiler began. Lewinsky was a close friend who babysat the couple’s children and called daily from DC
Nason and Bleiler were in couples therapy trying to repair their marriage in January of 1998, when the news broke of Lewinsky’s affair with President Clinton.
Soon after, the press found out about Bleiler’s and Lewinsky’s affair.
‘I was reeling from that discovery when January of 1998 happened,’ Nason said.
‘I got a call from my mother telling me she read a blurb about the [Bleiler and Lewinsky’s] affair in the LA Times … Before the end of the day, my voicemail was filled to capacity. The press showed up to our doorstep within hours.’
Nasar says the press was camped outside her Portland home and she was forced to hide out in Los Angeles with her children for a week but the reporters hadn’t left so she was forced to address the situation.
‘I came back and things were getting worse so we were advised to do a press conference to make them go away,’ Nason said.
The couple did a press conference with their lawyer where Bleiler came clean about his affair and Nason stood by silently.
Nason says after the press conference addressing the affair the press continued to hound her even at the grocery store and for months she had to live in hiding
‘I didn’t say anything. I stood there looking like a deer in headlights,’ she said. ‘My ex said a few words and then the lawyer took over. It seemed to last an eternity.’
During the press conference, the couple’s attorney told the press Lewinsky told the couple: ‘I’m going to the White House to get my presidential knee pads.’
Nason says after the press conference the press continued to hound her even at the grocery store and for months she had to live in hiding.
‘It was horrifying. Anytime there was a ripple in the case, people would show up at my doorstep,’ she recalled.
‘We lived six to eight months with our curtains closed. To be going through something so private and so heartbreaking and to have it so publicly aired.
‘I feel for anyone who has gone through this.’
The couple would divorce in 1999.
Nason says Lewinsky sent her a note ten years after the scandal apologizing, which she still has ‘tucked away in a box’ the Post reported.
Nason says her new memoir is not meant to be a ‘lurid tell-all’ but instead a ‘deep dive and self-reckoning’ to come to terms with the events and noted that she even changed the names of Monica and Andrew to Mallory and Charlie as a method of ‘self preservation.’
‘The book is really about my 30s, and the ridiculous mistakes I made along the way by ignoring my intuition,’ Nason wrote in a blog for Audible.
‘I was keenly aware that my big story had a big problem. How to tell my story when another woman’s story is tangled up in mine? In particular, a woman whose story has been told by herself and others,’ she wrote.
‘A woman who maintains a public presence and has worked to grapple with her own ghosts just as I have. And then, of course, there was an American president and a first lady,’ she added.
‘At first, I tried to write this story without them in it. In the end, the magnitude of these events in my life was so pivotal that to write them out was impossible.’