Ulrika Jonsson’s daughter Bo, 21, says she has decided NOT to meet her biological father


Ulrika Jonsson’s 21-year-old daughter Bo has told how she has decided not to meet her biological father Markus Kempen for the first time after he reached out to her.

The Swedish TV star, 54, recently penned an article for the Sun about the anxiety she felt over a potential meeting between Bo and Markus, now that Bo is nannying in Corfu – which is where her biological dad is currently living.

Ulrika shared her heartache over her partner walking out shortly after their baby daughter Bo’s life-saving heart operation during the emotional essay.

However Norland nanny Bo has since offered her own side of the story, as she detailed how she has never felt a longing to meet her father, after being adopted by Ulrika’s husband, Brian Monet, who she felt a connection with and calls ‘daddy’.

And she said that she’s in ‘floods of tears’ after her mother’s article, saying she’s ‘struggled to feel connected’ to the idea of a relationship with her biological father.  

Open letter: Ulrika Jonsson’s 21-year-old daughter Bo has told how she has decided not to meet her biological father Markus Kempen for the first time after he reached out to her

She revealed she feels there is ‘no space for Markus’ in her life at the moment, but didn’t rule out a future meeting for them when she feels ready.

Ulrika told Bo about her dad aged eight, however after already introducing her to her partners John and Lance, who acted as father figures, Bo admitted she struggled.

She said: ‘I talk about having a ‘biological’ dad because it’s just a genetic thing to me. I haven’t been able to make a connection emotionally. I was a bit confused by Mum’s explanation because of my age and I remember going off to play straight after as I didn’t have anything to say.’ 

‘How can you ever be prepared for being told you have a ‘real’ dad somewhere in the world, somewhere in your past or present?’ 

Throwback: The Swedish TV star, 54, recently penned an article for the Sun about she anxiety she felt over a potential meeting between Bo and Markus (pictured), now that Bo is nannying in Corfu - which is where her biological dad is currently living

 Throwback: The Swedish TV star, 54, recently penned an article for the Sun about she anxiety she felt over a potential meeting between Bo and Markus (pictured), now that Bo is nannying in Corfu – which is where her biological dad is currently living

Bo said she draws comparison from children being told they are adopted, but it isn’t something she ever spoke about with her friends.

The professional nanny puts this down to having a strong support network growing up, as she admitted to feeling very ‘settled’ in her home life. 

Bo revealed that her mum Ulrika would often check in to see if Bo wanted to talk about ‘Marcus’, however she confessed that she never did. 

Career: However Norland nanny Bo (pictured) has since offered her own side of the story, as she detailed how she has never felt a longing to meet her father

Career: However Norland nanny Bo (pictured) has since offered her own side of the story, as she detailed how she has never felt a longing to meet her father

Day job: Bo confessed she has sometimes wondered about her father leaving and the reason why - especially after choosing nannying as her career due to her love of children

Day job: Bo confessed she has sometimes wondered about her father leaving and the reason why – especially after choosing nannying as her career due to her love of children

She said: ‘I just felt no connection and no real intrigue either which might sound strange but I believe it’s because I had such a settled childhood that there was no real longing for that ‘missing piece’. What I didn’t ever do was ask Mum about their relationship and what happened — how and what went wrong.’

Bo was born with a congenital heart condition called Double Inlet Left Ventricle, which was diagnosed when Ulrika was pregnant. She has had one closed and two open-heart surgeries throughout her life so far.

She believes that going through this with just her mother due to the absence of Markus has given them an unbreakable bond. 

Bo confessed she has sometimes wondered about her father leaving and the reason why – especially after choosing nannying as her career due to her love of children.

While at her latest post in Corfu, Markus reached out to ask if she wanted to meet him, however she has decided to decline the offer.   

She explained: ‘I don’t have any angry feelings towards him because of anything he has done to me. But more because I feel he caused my mum so much pain, especially during all those worrying times when I was poorly. On this occasion, I’ve decided not to meet.’

Bo is not ruling out a meeting in the future but for right now is worried it could open a ‘can of worms’, as she struggles with the idea of meeting a man who caused her mother ‘so much pain’.

Bo finished her essay by sweetly admitting she sees Brian as her ‘daddy’, as he has done so much more for her than many biological dads would do.  

Worries: Speaking candidly in her article, Ulrika admitted her dread at Bo and Markus potentially meeting again as they are coincidently in the same country, revealing the union could 'open a can of worms'

Worries: Speaking candidly in her article, Ulrika admitted her dread at Bo and Markus potentially meeting again as they are coincidently in the same country, revealing the union could ‘open a can of worms’

She concluded: ‘So there is no space for Markus in my life at the moment. But I know the day will come when we will meet and it makes me nervous and full of anticipation. But as long as I have Mum by my side, I think I’ll be able to deal with it. I’m just not ready right now. 

In a recent column, Ulrika opened up on the agonising time she split with then-partner Markus, who went to live abroad just weeks after Bo was born.

Speaking candidly in her article, Ulrika admitted her dread at Bo and Markus potentially meeting again as they are coincidently in the same country, revealing the union could ‘open a can of worms’. 

Discussing the time before Markus left, Ulrika said there were already ‘fractures’ in their relationship even before their daughter was born and told how there were ‘red flags’ when they unsuccessfully tried living together previously. 

Of him leaving, she told how he stood ‘outside the labour ward’ smoking cigarettes and ‘plotting his escape’ while she struggled to give birth. 

Upsetting: 'After her first operation at six days old, I was allowed to take her home. On the way, in the car, he announced he’d accepted a job abroad and would be leaving imminently'

Upsetting: ‘After her first operation at six days old, I was allowed to take her home. On the way, in the car, he announced he’d accepted a job abroad and would be leaving imminently’

She went on ‘After her first operation at six days old, I was allowed to take her home. On the way, in the car, he announced he’d accepted a job abroad and would be leaving imminently.

‘I sat in the back of the car, cradling my child – not ours. I knew she was chronically ill, might not survive future cardiac operations — and had just been abandoned by one half of her parents.’

Ulrika emotionally explained that the depression she soon developed was one of the ‘deepest and darkest’ times of her life, insisting that she fought ‘relentlessly’ for Markus ‘to have a place in her [Bo’s] life.’

The former Gladiators host went on consider Bo, who is working as a nanny in Greece, meeting her father for the first time in almost 21 years, with the Markus also in the same country currently.

Ulrika told of her ‘anxiety’ and ‘concern’ of them meeting without her present, fearing it could open a ‘can of worms’ for her daughter that she’s not ready’ to face.

She said: ‘If she wants to meet him, I have always supported her and always will. It has been a discombobulated feeling of hope and fear these past few weeks… If he can enrich or enhance her life, who am I to stand in their way? I have never tainted her mind about her biological father.’

Ulrika is also mother to son Cameron, 26, with John Turnbull,  daughter Martha, 17, with Lance Gerrard-Wright and son Malcolm, with ex Brian Monet.

Abandoned: 'I sat in the back of the car, cradling my child - not ours. I knew she was chronically ill, might not survive future cardiac operations — and had just been abandoned by one half of her parents'

Abandoned: ‘I sat in the back of the car, cradling my child – not ours. I knew she was chronically ill, might not survive future cardiac operations — and had just been abandoned by one half of her parents’

Anxious: Ulrika told of her 'anxiety' and 'concern' of them meeting without her present, fearing it could open a 'can of worms' for her daughter that she's not ready' to face

Anxious: Ulrika told of her ‘anxiety’ and ‘concern’ of them meeting without her present, fearing it could open a ‘can of worms’ for her daughter that she’s not ready’ to face 

Family: Ulrika is also mother to son Cameron, 26, with John Turnbull, daughter Martha, 17, with Lance Gerrard-Wright and son Malcolm, with ex Brian Monet

Family: Ulrika is also mother to son Cameron, 26, with John Turnbull, daughter Martha, 17, with Lance Gerrard-Wright and son Malcolm, with ex Brian Monet

Ulrika has often been open about daughter Bo’s heart condition and in April this year revealed that Bo – who has a congenital heart defect – was rushed to hospital.

The star nervously had to await test results for her ill daughter after she was admitted to hospital overnight, with Ulrika given hourly reports on her progress at the time. 

Bo has been in and out of hospital over the years as a result of her condition – she was born with double inlet left ventricle defect, a congenital defect that affects the valves and chambers of the heart. 

As a baby, she had to undergo life-saving surgery on her heart – but Ulrika did not reveal what had caused Bo to be hospitalised. 

The previous month Ulrika hailed Bo as a ‘warrior’ as she went to get a health check up.

The TV presenter shared a series of snaps to her Instagram Stories of Bo lying down at the doctor’s office as she received a liver scan. 

The former Celebrity Big Brother star posted a photo of the pair sat together in the waiting room as she called Bo her ‘CHD Warrior’.   

Tough time: Ulrika has often been open about daughter Bo's heart condition and in April this year revealed that Bo - who has a congenital heart defect - was rushed to hospital

Tough time: Ulrika has often been open about daughter Bo’s heart condition and in April this year revealed that Bo – who has a congenital heart defect – was rushed to hospital



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