The questions every woman wants to ask a man before dating them have been revealed by a leading dating coach, as well as what you should be asking instead.
But there is a way to ask certain things in a ‘positive and respectful manner’ that will allow you to qualify your dates early on, so you don’t let a potentially great match ‘slip through your fingers’.
The questions every woman wants to ask a man before dating them have been revealed by leading dating coach Louanne Ward (pictured), as well as what you should be asking instead
Don’t ask: What are you looking for?
Do ask: Are you looking for fun or for something more?
Louanne said while you might be tempted to ask someone you’ve just met the former of these two questions, it often won’t get you the answer you crave.
‘What are you looking for is an open-ended question that people get asked all the time, so they have their answer masterfully crafted,’ Louanne told FEMAIL.
‘You never know if what you’re hearing is genuine or rehearsed.’
Instead of this, the relationship coach said you should ask ‘Are you looking for fun or for something more?’
‘This question gives the recipient a multiple choice question, which means they will usually answer spontaneously,’ Louanne said.
‘When they answer this, it should leave no doubt of their intentions.’
Louanne said when a person is put on the spot and asked if they are ‘single’, there is a ’50 per cent chance they will lie instead of be judged’ (stock image)
Don’t ask: Are you single?
Do ask: How many people do you think it’s acceptable to date at the same time while looking for a special connection?
Everyone asks if someone is single, and Louanne said when a person is put on the spot with merely a yes or no required, there is a ’50 per cent chance they will lie instead of be judged’.
‘Instead, you should ask them how many people they think it’s acceptable to date when looking for a special connection,’ she said.
‘This is asking for an opinion, which means most people will answer honestly.’
Don’t ask: What sort of work do you do? What do you do for a living?
Do ask: What do you want to do when you grow up and what currently pays for your lifestyle?
‘If you ask someone what work they do or what they do for a living, you can make a man feel like you are more interested in what he does or how much he earns rather than him as a person,’ Louanne said.
‘Instead, ask them something playful and non-threatening.’
The reason why this question works is because it leaves space for a man to tell you what he is currently doing, while also opening up the door so he can share any future career plans.
Don’t ask: How long have you been single?
Do ask: What do you think is an acceptable time frame to date after ending a relationship?
Louanne highlighted that many people get defensive when they get asked how long have they been single:
‘If they have been single for a long time, they get judged as not placing a relationship as important, and if they recently separated, they get judged as being on the rebound and not emotionally ready,’ Louanne said.
‘If you ask the latter question, not only will you most likely get an honest answer, but you will get an answer from personal experience which reveals how long they have been separated and how long they waited before moving on.’
Louanne highlighted that many people get defensive when they get asked how long have they been single (stock image)
Don’t ask: What is your height?
Do ask: How tall are you in heels?
The last question you should never ask a man is what is your height?
The reason why Louanne said you shouldn’t ask this is because unless a man is over five foot 10, then he absolutely dreads being hit with this query.
‘Replace it with how tall are you in heels?,’ Louanne said.
‘At least when you ask this question, you are giving the man the opportunity to even the height score.
‘He gets permission to add inches to his height while you’re flexing your math skills at the same time.’
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