A polyamorous gay throuple who made history as the first family to list three dads on the same birth certificate have told how their unique journey into parenthood is ‘like winning the lottery.’
Doctor Ian Jenkins, 45, and his partners Alan Mayfield and Jeremy Allen Hodges, from San Diego, made legal history in 2017 when a judge agreed to put them all on the birth certificate of daughter Piper, now three, paving the way for other polyamorous families to gain greater legal recognition in the US.
But despite the unconventional set-up, Jenkins – who previously told how the family spent a staggering $120,000 on legal fees and medical procedures to conceive their first child using donated embryos and a surrogate – insists they’re just like any other modern family.
‘I’ve got all these wonderful families accepting and loving us, and rejoicing in our children,’ Ian said, speaking to People Magazine. ‘We have two beautiful kids. I have two more partners than I thought I might. For me, it’s kind of like winning the lottery.’
Doctor Ian Jenkins (pictured, right), 45, and his partners Alan Mayfield (middle) and Jeremy Allen Hodges (left), from San Diego, who made history as the first family to list three dads on the same birth certificate, have told how their unique journey into parenthood is ‘like winning the lottery’
The family spent a staggering $120,000 on legal fees and medical procedures to conceive their first child via a surrogate. Pictured, Ian with son Parker
Ian and Alan have been together for seventeen years, since meeting during their medical residencies in Boston. They’ve been with their partner, Jeremy, who works at a zoo hospital, for eight years.
Since welcoming daughter Piper, who was conceived with Jeremy’s sperm and a friend’s donated egg, the throuple has gone on to have a 16-month-old son, Parker, using the same friend’s eggs and Alan’s sperm.
Both children, who are genetic half-siblings, were carried by surrogates.
Jeremy is known to the children as ‘daddy’, while Alan is ‘dada’ and Ian is ‘papa’.
Describing the dynamics of the throuple’s relationship, Jenkins equated it to a person liking different types of food at the same time, explaining that he is capable of loving both ‘pizza’ and ‘ice cream’ the same amount, but for different reasons.
‘I really love pizza and I also love ice cream and there’s not anything wrong with one or the other,’ he explained.
‘It’s possible to love more than one food, and want both of them in your life. Most people understand that because very few of us know someone who’s only had one partner their entire life.’
Ian and Alan have been together for seventeen years, since meeting during their medical residencies in Boston. They’ve been with their partner, Jeremy, who works at a zoo hospital, for eight years. Pictured, together
The polyamorous gay throuple insist they’re just like any other modern family. Pictured, in hospital with their newborn
But the throuple were also aware that being a polyamorous family would introduce unique struggles.
After a childhood friend of Alan’s offered to be an egg donor, and another friend agreed to be a surrogate, daughter Piper was born in 2017, with all three men allowed in the delivery room.
Their final hurdle was getting all three of their names on the birth certificate once Piper was born, weighing 10 lb., 8 oz.
‘I didn’t want a court battle,’ Jenkins told the publication. ‘I just wanted to be a dad.’
While at first the judge argued there was no legal precedent for such a unique circumstance, she eventually accepted their request.
Family: Ian Jenkins (left), Alan Mayfield (center) and Jeremy Allen Hodges (right) now have two kids, three-year-old Piper and 16-month-old Parker
In total, the price of bringing Piper into the world – including IVF treatments and lawyers – set them back $120,000 medical and legal fees and more than 20 legal contracts, Jenkins says.
Since the throuple won that court battle in 2017, they’ve gone on to welcome baby number two Parker into the world, using a different surrogate but the same egg donor, a woman the children consider an aunt.
They went on to explain that this time, all three men were listed on the birth certificate with no court date needed.
The throuple are now publishing a book, ‘Three Dads and a Baby: Adventures in Modern Parenting’, which details the hurdles they had to jump over to grow their family
And Jenkins says how he and his partners are going to make sure their children are aware of the unique journey into the world.
‘[Piper] knows exactly where she came from,’ he explained: ‘We’ve told her, “They took a little bit of Daddy Jeremy and they took a little bit of Mama Meghan and they put you in our surrogate, Delilah, and she helped you grow for nine months, and when you came out she gave you to us and we’re your three dads.”‘
He added that it ‘doesn’t confuse’ her – and days she’s met both her surrogate and her biological mothers.