A TikToker who runs a ‘body positive’ community for plus-size women is suing five members for defamation after they spoke out against him on social media — with one claiming she was sexually assaulted in his home.
Stefan Wilhelmy, 48, from Las Vegas, Nevada, has over 178,000 followers on his @pearadise1 account — formerly known as @bbwpearadise — where he posts videos celebrating ‘big beautiful women’ and his love for them.
As part of the community, he runs a Discord chat server with hundreds of members that he uses to invite women to come to his home and make social media content, Insider reported.
However, a number of women are insisting there is a darker side to Wilhelmy and his group. They have taken to TikTok in recent weeks to warn others to steer clear of him while sharing the negative experiences they had as members.
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Popular: Stefan Wilhelmy, 48, from Las Vegas, Nevada, has over 178,000 followers on his @pearadise1 account, which is formerly known as @bbwpearadise
Safe space? As part of the community, he runs a Discord chat server that he uses to invite women to come to his home and make social media content
Claims: He posts videos celebrating ‘big beautiful women’ and his love for them. However, a number of women have taken to TikTok in recent weeks to warn others to steer clear of him
Wilhelmy filed a lawsuit against five of the women in the District Court of Clark County, Nevada, on June 30.
He alleged ‘defamation, false light invasion of privacy, intentional interference with contractual relations, aiding and abetting, conspiracy, and intentional interference with prospective economic advantage,’ according to Insider.
The TikToker claimed in the lawsuit that he suffered significant reputational harm and harassment.’ He is seeking $1 million in damages and is also asking for an injunction that would prohibit the women from publicly speaking out against him.
Insider spoke with Wilhelmy, who said he has been inviting ‘mostly overweight friends’ to his home since 2006 — 14 years before he started his controversial community.
Wilhelmy launched Discord in July 2020 during the COVID-19 pandemic.
‘We are a body positive, all inclusive and supportive group located in Las Vegas,’ he wrote on his website. ‘We run a Discord server called “Pearadise” and we host body positive events in a safe, welcoming and non-judgmental environment where everyone is accepted just as they are.
Accusations: Kimberly Ann Haueter, who is known as @piggy_stardust, alleged on TikTok that Wilhelmy ‘fetishize bigger women’ and has made a ‘personal harem’
Taking it to court: Wilhelmy filed a defamation lawsuit against five women, including Haueter, in the District Court of Clark County, Nevada, on June 30
‘The Discord is open to all nice people, no matter what race, size, age or gender!’
Potential members have to apply and provide a copy of their IDs to join Discord, which has ‘NSFW sections.’
‘It has always been my personal ideal to be and provide a real safe space where everyone can feel absolutely calm and safe and accepted and never in need to worry about nasty comments, shaming, flimsy and uncomfortable furniture. or possibly embarrassing situations due to their size,’ he told Insider.
The publication also spoke with some of the women Wilhelmy filed a lawsuit against, including Kimberly Ann Haueter, who is known as @piggy_stardust on TikTok.
Haueter started posting videos about the community in late May, insisting ‘BBW Pearadise is not a safe and positive place.’
She claimed that Wilhelmy ‘uses the body positivity movement for his personal harem,’ and his TikTok videos ‘fetishize bigger women rather than making them feel accepted and normalized.’
In a clip posted on Sunday, Haueter explained that she had been a member of Wilhelmy’s community ‘since about February’ and felt compelled to speak out after seeing ‘some red flags over the months that made [her] very nervous.’
Warnings: Another TikToker known as Savy posted 10 videos about the alleged sexual assault within the Pearadise community. Her account was also name in the lawsuit
Claims: She never explicitly named Wilhelmy, but she claimed ‘a person’ she met on Discord continuously touching her without consent, calling it ‘sexual assault’
The TikToker said a number of women’s alleged experiences with Wilhelmy ‘paint an image of a very toxic man who uses and abuses bigger women for his clout and fetishes.’
Haueter believes the group’s founder has been ‘misusing the body-positive movement to lure women into a very highly sexualized environment.’
She claimed some women were made to feel they were ‘too small’ to be welcomed into the community, while others left Discord after only a few days ‘because of unsolicited pictures and unsolicited messages.’
Haueter noted that two women in Wilhelmy’s inner circle ‘came forward regarding allegations of him non-consensually touching them.’
‘When that happened, he got scared and instantly lawyered up and started the attack,’ she alleged. ‘He did everything in his power to discredit them, to victim blame, to victim shame.’
Another TikToker known as Savy posted 10 videos about the alleged sexual assault within the Pearadise community onto her @sleepthroat account, which was named in the lawsuit, Insider reported.
The account was briefly deleted and then renamed @spoiledmiwk.
Speaking out: Alejandra, whose @allyjayylovee account is mentioned in the lawsuit, claimed in one video she went to ‘his house’ and was ‘afraid to speak out.
Hitting back: Wilhelmy is seeking $1 million in damages and is also asking for an injunction that would prohibit the women from publicly speaking out against him
Defense: Wilhelmy told Insider that the statements made against him were ‘false, egregious, and intentionally using triggering language’
Savy never explicitly named Wilhelmy in the clips she shared in late May, but she claimed ‘a person’ she met on Discord ‘made [her] uncomfortable’ by continuously touching her without consent.
She said the person grabbed her by the waist to tickle her, massaged her shoulders, and would try ‘smacking [her] butt without permission.’ She referred to the alleged interactions as sexual assault.
Alejandra, whose @allyjayylovee account is mentioned in the lawsuit, claimed in one video she went to ‘his house’ and was ‘afraid to speak out.’ Like Savy, she never mentioned Wilhelmy by name.
Nevada state law defines sexual assault as sexual penetration without consent, and Wilhelmy’s lawsuit states that ‘no such penetration ever occurred.’
Wilhelmy told Insider that ‘there was never any sexual touch or skin contact’ when the women were over his house — ‘just friendly group fun banter’ that included ‘hugs, high fives, and mutual shoulder massages.’
Savy has started a GoFundMe to pay for her lawyer, while Haueter plans on launching an online store, where she will sell T-shirts, key chains, and other items to raise money for their legal fees.
‘I am in litigation because Savy and Ally made statements that are false, egregious, and intentionally using triggering language,’ Wilhelmy told Insider. ‘The allegations made are so serious, they perceived and reputation damaging right next to murder.’