Halsey has opened up about announcing their pregnancy at the height of their career, saying they were ‘treated like a teen mom’ and made to feel ‘shame’ because they are young and unwed.
The singer, who welcomed their first child, Ender Ridley Aydin, with their boyfriend Alev Aydin last month, spoke candidly about their road to parenthood in an interview with Zane Lowe on New Music Daily on Apple Music 1.
‘I’m 26, and I tried very hard for this pregnancy and it was like, I’m financially independent, I’m pretty far along in my career, it feels like the right time for me to do it,’ Halsey, who revealed in March that their preferred pronouns are she/they, explained.
Say what? Halsey, 26, opened up about being made to feel ‘shame’ when they were pregnant their newborn, Ender Ridley Aydin
Hard to handle: Halsey, who gave birth last month, said they were ‘treated like a teen mom’ because they were young and unwed, despite their pregnancy being planned
However, Halsey said they were made to feel like their decision to start a family amid their busy career was somehow irresponsible, despite their pregnancy being planned.
‘I got treated like a teen mom a lot of the times, you know what I mean? Where people were like, “Oh my God, you’re so young, and you have so much to do in your career, and you’re not married and you’re this,”‘ they recalled.
‘And it triggered all of these feelings of shame from when I was younger. It triggered a lot of old feelings of shame in me where I was like, “How can you have an opinion, that kind of opinion on me making this decision?”‘
On the ‘flip side,’ Halsey pointed out what people would likely say if they focused on their career and waited too long to have a baby.
Can’t win: Halsey noted that people would have said they ‘worked too hard’ and ‘never had a family’ if they waited too long to have a baby
Ughh: Halsey also claimed they missed out on opportunities to promote their new album, If I Can’t Have Love, I Want Power, because of their pregnancy
‘But then, there’s also, “She worked too hard, she never had a family. She’s going to die alone. She was too obsessed with work, she never found someone. It’s a shame she’s not going to have any kids, her career’s not going to hold her at night,”‘ they explained.
‘OK. So nothing. So f*** ’em and I just was like, I’m going to do what I want to do. You know what I mean? I was like, this is important to me.’
Halsey told Lowe that they missed out on opportunities to promote their new album — If I Can’t Have Love, I Want Power — because of their pregnancy, which was frustrating as an artist.
‘We were going out and trying to set up magazine covers based around the album release, and they were like, “Yeah, but is she going to be pregnant? Because we don’t want to do a maternity cover,”‘ they explained.
Special day: Halsey welcomed their first child, Ender, with their boyfriend Alev Aydin on July 14
Happy: ‘I can’t think of anything that could possibly make this moment in my life better,’ Halsey said of having Ender
‘And I was like, “It’s not a maternity cover. It’s about my album, I just happen to be pregnant.” And they’re like, “No, it’s a pregnant cover.” And I was like, “So I can’t go talk about my album?”‘
Halsey has been candid about having a miscarriage while performing in 2015, and they have also been open about their struggle with endometriosis — a painful condition that occurs when the tissue that normally lines the inside of the uterus grows in other areas of the body.
The Bad Love singer made it clear in their interview with Lowe that the mistreatment they received while pregnant was worth it, saying they ‘feel so full of gratitude’ since they gave birth to Ender on July 14.
‘I can’t think of anything that could possibly make this moment in my life better,’ they said in the interview.
Glowing: Halsey attended the Los Angeles screening of the their film If I Can’t Have Love, I Want Power on Wednesday, five weeks after giving birth
Look of love: New parents Halsey and Aydin made their red carpet debut at the special event
Just a week before Halsey gave birth, they unveiled the cover for their latest album, which shows their fully exposing one breast and sitting on a gold throne with a baby on their lap.
The cover was modeled after the famous oil painting ‘Virgin and Child’ by Jean Fouquet, a design they hoped would de-stigmatize breastfeeding and postpartum bodies.
‘This image is my means of reclaiming my autonomy and establishing my pride and strength as a life force for my human being,’ they wrote on Instagram.
‘This cover image celebrates pregnant and postpartum bodies as something beautiful, to be admired. We have a long way to go with eradicating the social stigma around bodies & breastfeeding. I hope this can be a step in the right direction!’