Gabrielle Union says her soul was ‘shattered’ when she learned Dwyane Wade fathered a child with another woman while undergoing IVF treatments and fertility struggles
- Wade welcomed a son with another woman in 2013 while on a break with Union
- During that time Union was going through IVF to try and have her own child
- The betrayal eventually lead her to chose surrogacy
- The couple share a daughter named Kaavia who was born in 2018
- Wade also has Zaire, 18 and Zaya, 12, and was nephew Dahveon’s, 18, guardian
Gabrielle Union says her soul was ‘shattered’ when she learned now-husband Dwyane Wade got another woman pregnant while Union was going through IVF treatments to try and struggling to conceive.
The actress, 48, shares a raw account of the betrayal in her new book You Got Something Stronger, which Time published an excerpt of on Friday.
In the piece, Gabrielle explains: ‘The experience of Dwyane having a baby so easily—while I was unable to—left my soul not just broken into pieces, but shattered into fine dust scattering in the wind.’
Union and Wade would go on to welcome daughter Kaavia via surrogate in 2018.
Devastated: Gabrielle Union says her soul was ‘shattered’ when she learned now-husband Dwyane Wade got another woman pregnant while Union was going through IVF treatments to try and conceive
The piece began: ‘In 2013, before we were married, Dwyane had a baby with another woman. It should go without saying that we were not in a good place at the time that child was conceived.’
Gabi and Dwyane began dating in 2008 but according to the athlete’s own 2020 documentary, the pair were on a break when son Xavier, now seven, was conceived.
At the time, Wade was already dad to Zaire, 18 and Zaya, 12, and was legal guardian to his nephew, Dahveon, 18.
Though the couple was ‘doing much better’ when he revealed his secret to her, she was heartbroken.
‘To say I was devastated is to pick a word on a low shelf for convenience,’ The actress explained. ‘There are people—strangers I will never meet—who have been upset that I have not previously talked about that trauma. I have not had words, and even after untold amounts of therapy I am not sure I have them now.’
Gabi was particularly hurt given how hard she was trying to have a baby with Dwyane.
‘The experience of Dwyane having a baby so easily—while I was unable to—left my soul not just broken into pieces, but shattered into fine dust scattering in the wind,’ she wrote.
‘We gathered what we could to slowly remake me into something new. There was no way to disguise where I’d been glued back together.’
Though the pair were ready to pick up the pieces, Union admitted that her ‘feelings weren’t originating from a healthy place,’ largely because of her own struggles getting pregnant.
‘So much of what made the decision so difficult was that if I didn’t submit to a surrogacy, then I was convinced I needed to let Dwyane go,’ she confessed. ‘Even if he didn’t want to, I had to let him find someone who could give him what he wanted.’
After some reflection, Union began to research surrogacy options.
She and Wade married in 2014 and would welcome daughter Kaavia four years later.
Dwyane previously admitted that telling Gabrielle about Xavier was the ‘hardest thing’ he’s ‘ever had to do.’
‘I had a child with someone else and I had to tell her. Hardest thing I’ve ever had to do is man up and tell Gabrielle Union that I’ve had a child with somebody else,’ he said in his documentary D. Wade: Life Unexpected. ‘I couldn’t sleep. I wasn’t eating.’
‘When you hold something in that you know is going to come out and you have this information and you know it’s gonna f**k somebody’s life up, that you care about, that you love, if it don’t hurt you, then you’re not human,’ Wade continued. ‘… Me and Gab just went through something that you never want to go through and we still came out of it.’